ON CHRISTIANITY

— DEAR REV. GRAHAM: I’m furious, because the man I’ve been seeing for two years told me at Christmas that he’s decided not to divorce his wife and marry me. Our relationship was secret, but what would be wrong with letting his wife know what’s been going on? He deserves to get hurt.

  • B.W.

DEAR B.W.: I’m probably not going to give you the answer you want to hear, but it would be wrong for you to lash out in anger and try to hurt this man and his family. I even wonder if you hope his wife will turn against him and send him back into your arms, but if so, this too would be wrong.

You’ve probably heard the expression that “two wrongs don’t make a right” - and it applies in this situation. It was wrong in God’s eyes for you to carry on this relationship, and even if it had ended in marriage, it would have been without God’s blessing. God takes the marriage vow very seriously. Jesus said, “Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Mark 10:9). But it also would be wrong for you to try to cause trouble in this person’s family. He also was in the wrong, but hopefully he’s realized his foolishness and has recommitted himself to his marriage.

The most important thing you can do, however, is to face the wrong you’ve done, and turn to God for the forgiveness and new direction. God loves you; He loves you so much that He sent His Son into the world to make forgiveness possible.

Don’t turn your back on Him any longer, because His way is always best.

Write to Billy Graham in care of Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C. 28201 or visit the website at billygraham.org

MovieStyle, Pages 34 on 02/08/2013

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