Keeping up with the Kendricks

Couple who founded nonprofit children’s organization Embrace take eight of their own on a year-long road trip to teach others what they’ve learned

MELISSA, Texas -- The Kendrick family traded their 3,000-square-foot Melissa home for a 30-foot camper for a year, and visited every state in the lower 48, parts of Canada and Mexico. They outran hurricanes, survived low temperatures -- and potty-trained the youngest of their nine children.

They also ran out of gas -- about 1,000 feet from a filling station on the last day of their trip.

"We had been good about keeping it filled during the trip, but on that last day, it came back to bite us," Bruce Kendrick says.

So why did Bruce, 35, and his wife Denise, 36, drive 25,000 miles with eight of their nine children?

Eight years ago, the Kendricks founded Embrace, a nonprofit that provides aid and resources to at-risk, fostered and adopted children and their families, as well as faith-based children's homes.

"We got so many requests for workshops that we said, 'OK, let's knock it all out in a year,'" Denise Kendrick says.

They spent about 18 months planning the trip before leaving on June 1, 2015. They only recently returned to Texas.

SEEING THE SIGHTS

The family swam with manatees in Florida, hiked the Grand Canyon and Yosemite national parks, rode bikes along the Great Allegheny Passage south of Pittsburgh, went crabbing in Maine, lived off the grid in an old miner's cabin in Lolo National Forest in Montana and skied in New Mexico.

Most of their children, five of whom are adopted, joined them: 20-year-old Genet, 13-year-old Macy, 12-year-old Kate, 10-year-old Shepherd, 9-year-old Mattie, 8-year-old Ellen, 7-year-old Reuben and 2-year-old Chapel. The oldest child, 23-year-old Brandan, didn't accompany them.

Mom and dad slept in a double bed on one side of the trailer. Some of the kids slept in bunk beds on the other side. Others slept in the kitchen and living area on mattresses that were set up every night.

The Embrace board of directors approved $20,000 for fuel costs and training expenses. Most of the other money for the trip came from fundraising, savings or donations from churches that hosted training sessions.

The family used more than 10,000 quarters in laundromats around the country, Denise Kendrick says.

In places where it was hard to take the trailer, such as New York, the Kendricks stayed in hotels or in mission network housing.

"We had no major illnesses or injuries,"

Kendrick says. "God was looking out for us."

But there were some minor scrapes.

Reuben, whom the family calls "Chuy," needed stitches when he was riding on the handlebars of a bicycle pedaled by one of his sisters and ran into a brick wall.

"Guys, that's a bad idea," Kendrick remembers saying. "But it was already too late."

Reuben's second injury, a minor one, occurred "in a playground incident" at Laurel Hills State Park in western Pennsylvania, Bruce Kendrick says.

There were a lot of what Denise Kendrick calls "camper shenanigans."

In South Carolina one evening, water started streaming down a wall near the master sleeping area. In a separate incident, a cord that hitches the trailer to the family's van got twisted and had to be fixed.

"It would have taken two weeks for the pros to fix it, but they said we could do it ourselves in an hour," she says. "It took a lot longer than an hour."

In New Mexico, hoses and water lines froze, and at another stop, a loose valve led to a sewage bath for Bruce Kendrick.

"That was awesome," he says.

THE BARE NECESSITIES

Along the way, they conducted workshops about foster care in about 23 cities, including Indianapolis; New York; Lancaster, Pa.; Rapid City, S.D.; Montreal; Quebec City; and Tijuana, Mexico.

"We didn't get much pushback [from the kids]," Bruce Kendrick says. "The hardest part was the lack of privacy and personal space."

Packing was difficult, too.

"They wanted to bring everything with them," Denise Kendrick says. "We had to say, 'OK, if you really think this is a neat rock and want to bring it with you, then something else needs to be left behind.'"

The task of narrowing things down was exhausting.

"We got rid of so much stuff," Kate says.

"It was hard to decide what to keep," Macy says.

One thing they didn't have was enough shelf space for books in a family of voracious readers.

"We spent a lot of hours in libraries reading books," says Kendrick, who used the reading material as part of her home-school curriculum. "We ordered so many and shipped so many boxes of books back home to grandma."

Kendrick started providing young-adult book lessons to her children and promised they could go to the movies based on the books if they finished them.

Shepherd got hooked on the Western novels of Louis L'Amour and asked his mom, "Does he have any more?"

"Oh, wait until you see this," his mother told him. "He's got, like, 50 more."

When the roads were too twisty for them to take the trailer to a camping spot in Yosemite, Bruce and Chapel spent the night in a tent while Denise and the rest of the children huddled for warmth in their van.

"It was 18 degrees. I thought it was going to be 40," she says. "We would turn on the heat for a little while every few hours to keep warm."

She stayed awake while the kids slept, passing the time by reading The Martian.

SPREADING THE WORD

The Kendricks' oldest son, Brandan, whom they adopted when he was 16, just graduated from basic training in the Army and didn't make the trip. But he played a big role in helping the Kendricks become involved in foster care.

"A lot of kids age out of foster care, and we just found that unacceptable," Bruce Kendrick says. "We took one look at him, and we knew he was our son."

According to statistics from the Texas Department of Family and Protective Services, about 30,000 children enter foster care each year.

(In Arkansas, there were 4,592 children in foster care at the end of 2015, according to the Arkansas Division of Children and Family Services.)

The Kendricks spend much of their time trying to reunite children with their birth families as often as possible.

Jen Decker was familiar with Embrace's outreach and met the Kendricks early during their tour.

"Part of their tour was coaching people like me to provide a more positive support structure for foster and adoptive families," says Decker, the director of Network 1.27, an adoptive ministry at Westside Family Church in Lenexa, Kan. "They have helped me immensely. They've been out there learning the hard way, and they have helped teach me to do what I do better."

Shortly after starting Embrace, the Kendricks found themselves advocating for foster care at the highest levels.

"Government plays a role in this, and we appreciate what the government is doing, but if people in their own communities don't take care of the most vulnerable, then the problem never gets solved," Bruce Kendrick says. "We didn't set out with this grand vision, we just kind of followed God's plan. Now I'm speaking at the state and national level, discussing legislation and doing other things."

Denise Kendrick describes Embrace's efforts as being a "voice for the voiceless," and the family estimates that it has fostered about 25 children over the years. Some became permanent family members.

"It was like Rebel Without a Cause. You're playing a constant game of chicken where you are waiting to see who swerves first to avoid going over the cliff," Kendrick says, referring to their early years with Brandan. "I said, 'I'm gonna push and push and push, but, dude, I am not going to swerve.'

"I just fell head-over-heels for that kid. I'm his mom."

HOME AGAIN

The Kendricks said the best part of the trip was meeting people from different backgrounds and living situations.

"We stayed in some very interesting places," she says. "Some of those trailer parks -- wow."

One stop included a neighborhood on the South Side of Chicago over the July Fourth holiday -- a weekend during which 10 people died in shootings.

"It might not have been the best neighborhood, but the people we met were really welcoming," Kendrick says. "We just sat outside and watched the fireworks."

The beauty of the landscape was staggering, she says.

"It was great seeing God's creation across the country. I see it all the time on the desktop of our Mac, but wow, now I'm seeing it in real life."

Most family members say they are happy to be back home but relished the trip.

"It was kind of good to get away, but at the same time, you missed the normality," Macy says.

Genet, originally from Ethiopia, reflected on the trip as the family got ready to play a board game.

"Now that we're back, it's like, where do we go next?"

Family on 06/22/2016

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