DEAR ABBY: We have three grandchildren and are due to make our annual visit. Two of the children are easy to plan for, and we have good relationships with them. The third is a 12-year-old boy with Down syndrome, and we struggle with how to deal with him -- what to do and what to buy him. Any ideas?
-- Unsure in the South
DEAR UNSURE: The most important thing you can bring with you on your visit is a heart filled with love, and the determination that your grandson will know you love him. Spending one-on-one time together would make him feel special. Every child needs validation and affection on their journey toward adulthood. With the self-confidence it brings, Down syndrome children can live full and happy lives.
The questions you're asking me are ones your grandson's parents can answer for you. What he could use and various activities you can share should be easy questions for them to answer.
I have printed a wonderful poem on this subject in my column before. It was written by Edna Massimilla, and I think it is timely. Edna is 102 now and still as energetic and "with it" as ever. Read on:
HEAVEN'S VERY SPECIAL CHILD
A meeting was held
so far from Earth.
It was the time
for another birth.
The Angels said to
the Lord above --
"This special child
will need much love.
"For progress may
be very slow,
"Accomplishment
may never show.
"This special child
will need much care
"From the people
way down there.
"This child may not
talk, run or play,
"And thoughts may
seem so far away.
"In many ways will
not try to adapt
"Known as 'disabled'
and 'handicapped.'
"Please be careful
where this one is sent.
"We want this child
to be so content.
"O please, Lord, find
the parents who
"Will do a very special
job for You.
"They will not realize
right away
"The leading role that
they have to play.
"But with this child
sent from above
"Comes stronger faith,
and richer love.
"Soon they'll know
the privilege given
"In caring for their
gift from Heaven.
"Their precious child,
so meek and mild
"Is Heaven's very
special child."
Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, Calif. 90069.
High Profile on 07/15/2018