SEATTLE -- The words on a handmade sign spoke eloquently: "Love is not tourism."
On Sept. 27, a wedding -- one of many -- took place at busy Peace Arch Historical State Park in Blaine, Wash., uniting a couple who had been separated by a closed border for more than six months. Allyssa Howard drove north from the Everett area, where she has lived for the past four years. Sara Morosan came from her home in Chilliwack, British Columbia, an 80-minute drive east of Vancouver. Both wore lace dresses -- one black, one white -- with black lace-up boots. Both of their faces glowed.
Howard and Morosan are just one of many cross-border couples whose plans for a life together have been affected by new pandemic regulations -- and who came together, appropriately, at the Peace Arch. The park is unique along the U.S.-Canada border, in that it is a place where people from each side of the border can gather together. The border itself officially closed to nonessential travel in March (essentially banning tourism), and the Canadian side of the park closed in June. But the gatherings at the Peace Arch have continued; a peaceful loophole.
And the weddings there have multiplied. "It's happening every day, literally dozens of couples at the border, people from around the country," said Len Saunders, an immigration lawyer in the border town of Blaine. He noted that he's doing a "huge business in spousal green cards -- never in this capacity before."
20 TO 25 WEDDINGS
Park ranger Rickey Blank, manager of the Peace Arch Historical State Park, concurred. Pre-covid, he said in an email, "weddings between folks across the border" might happen once or twice a week; now it's 20 to 25 weddings weekly. (Blank said that couples wishing to marry at the park should contact park staff in advance -- impromptu weddings are discouraged -- and expect to follow all current social-distancing guidelines. While getting married at the park with an officiant and a small handful of people is possible, the parks department is not allowing larger weddings [with tents, tables and such] at any of its state parks. "This is not only a public health concern during a pandemic but also these activities are harming the park's landscaping and natural resources," said Anna Gill, communications director with the Washington State Parks and Recreation Commission.)
Howard, who is 34, and Morosan, 28, met online six years ago, immediately drawn together by shared interests, particularly in Japanese animation. "We just started talking about the same kind of nerdy stuff," remembered Howard of their instant connection. The two met in person for the first time in 2015, when Morosan flew to Minneapolis, where Howard then lived. Love blossomed, and Howard found a new job in Everett and moved west in 2016. It wasn't an easy decision -- "the first time moving away from my family," Howard said -- but it meant the two would be separated only by a drive of a few hours and an open border.
For several years, they saw each other once or twice a month on weekends: Morosan would take the Greyhound bus to Everett, or Howard would drive to Chilliwack. The miles were many, but so were the rewards: By the time of the Vancouver Pride Festival in August 2019, the two were engaged, with a wedding planned for October this year.
NONESSENTIAL TRAVEL
And then the pandemic hit, and the border slammed closed. Neither woman could cross the border to see the other; visiting a nonrelative loved one is considered nonessential travel. (There are exceptions for travel into Canada for immediate family, but a fianceé does not qualify.) The October plans for a bigger wedding were put on hold. "At that point, we thought, 'Let's wait until the borders open,'" Howard said, but that day didn't come.
"It was very hard," said Morosan, who works in a grocery store. "I had plenty of nights and days when I felt very depressed and I felt defeated because I couldn't see her, I couldn't drive to the border, she couldn't come here. I know she was only two hours away, but it's still distance and it still hurt."
After Howard lost her job as a bus driver, the two realized their best option was to go ahead and get married, so Howard could come to Canada and begin the process of becoming a permanent resident -- and the couple could be together.
That last Sunday in September, the wedding was small and simple, with a friend officiating and a very small group of friends and family looking on. Now Howard, who can cross the border once the marriage license is certified, is planning to move north, with a mandatory 14-day quarantine immediately after her arrival.
She'll need to apply for permanent residency status, for which being married to a Canadian qualifies her. Mark Belanger, a Vancouver lawyer specializing in immigration, said that currently, it takes between six months to a year to get permanent residency, but that an American spouse like Howard would be allowed to be in Canada throughout that time, and can apply for a work permit. He said he's seen a significant increase in applications from cross-border spouses seeking permanent residency -- about double last year's rate.