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story.lead_photo.caption Melinda LaFevers sits by her laptop in the kitchen of her home in Searcy. In an effort to understand her hoarding, she blogs, posts on Facebook and has published a book, Meditations of a Hoarder (Just Cause, 2015). - Photo by John Sykes Jr.

SEARCY -- The front yard hosts a few cars, a no-trespassing sign, a porcelain toilet lying on its side, a tangle of scrap wood, unidentifiable mechanical bits and several cats who broadcast their relation via half-bobbed tails.

Photo by John Sykes Jr.
Hoarders turned down Melinda LaFevers when she applied for the cable TV show because she did not have minor children at home and was not in a crisis.
Photo by John Sykes Jr.
Melinda LaFevers blows dust from a ceramic bowl and pitcher set. One of the affirmations she tells herself is, “A memory that makes us happy is not dependent upon keeping an object.”
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A stray cat crouches warily outside the front door of Melinda LaFevers’ home.

Melinda LaFevers, 56, stalls near the closed door, making nervous small talk -- the cats, the weather, the poisonous encounters her son has survived (his arm still bears rattlesnake fang marks), the plethora of brown recluse spiders inside.

Finally she gulps and says, "OK, you ready?" and opens the door.

To the left, the office is un-navigable, but a narrow path leads ahead, weaving through the living room's haphazardly stacked boxes and floor-to-ceiling books, past a TV, an empty water cooler and a old TV tray bearing cleaning supplies.

There is a makeshift sitting area -- a tiny wooden Sunday School chair and a stool -- wedged among the piles on each side of the path, and LaFevers has lighted candles to cover the musk of mold. (Sometimes the living room and kitchen flood.)

The path winds on, around the island in the kitchen, where plants cling to a window, bottles crowd the tops of appliances and boxes of packaged food (some empty) cover every surface. Plastic shopping bags dangle from chairs, cabinets and handles, and piles of dishes jumble on the floor, on the counters and atop the washer and dryer.

The bathroom is usable ("Not a hoarder's bathroom," LaFevers proclaims, parroting a professional cleanup service that once assessed her home), with a clean sink and toilet. But the door doesn't move, lodged halfway open by piles of clothes, magazines and containers of half-used toiletries and blocked at the top by draped towels.

A few weeks ago, a friend helped LaFevers replace the wiring in her water pump, restoring running water to her house for the first time in two years. While her pipes were dry, she showered at her father's house.

LaFevers is unique in that she publicly acknowledges hoarding and details her sporadic efforts to declutter on Facebook and a blog ( She has even written a book, Meditations of a Hoarder, available for $8 from the Yard Dog Press imprint Just Cause.

"Hoarding is the emotional, mental problem that nobody talks about," she says. "Most people are so embarrassed, so guilty."

A 2008 Johns Hopkins University study suggests that 4 percent of the population could be hoarders (in the United States, nearly 13 million people), while a 2002 National Institutes of Health study found that women are twice as likely to hoard as men. A 1993 NIH study found that 78 percent of hoarders have an immediate family member who hoards, and a 2015 NIH study found that symptoms may appear as early as age 10, with a median onset between ages 20 and 30.

Sheila Jo Kornblum is a licensed clinical social worker in Rogers who specializes in hoarding disorder.

"Hoarding is a very complex disorder, in that it can come from a lot of different triggers," she says. "A lot of times it's triggered by something traumatic, a loss, someone has passed away. ... We used to think it was some sort of obsessive-compulsive disorder, but we're finding it's really not."

When the American Psychiatric Association's official reference, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental

Disorders, was updated in 2013, hoarding was added as a stand-alone disorder. But Kornblum says for many people, hoarding also includes components of attention deficit hyperactivity disorder, depression and anxiety.

"When you're depressed, it's harder to motivate yourself to take things to the curb. ... Anxiety makes it hard to make decisions about what to throw away, and the ADHD can cause you to get distracted and clean tiny bits in multiple areas, so that after a day's work, it may look like you've done nothing," she says.


LaFevers was a disorganized child, but she says her clutter became pathological in the early '90s, after the breakup of an unhappy marriage. She and her then-preteen sons moved into a roughly 2,000-square-foot house owned by her father and originally built as an art studio for her mother. The plan was for LaFevers to live rent-free while earning her master's in education.

The house quickly grew cluttered. LaFevers' sons were relegated to a 10-by-10-foot slice of upstairs, prompting her father to build a couple of storage sheds. Rather than moving things out of the house, LaFevers accumulated more. Eighteen years later, she's still living in the studio.

"I didn't think of myself as a hoarder, but I did think I was a 'clutterholic,' a horrible housekeeper," she says. "At some points, I'd get better. I had a regular gaming group, and we would play over here occasionally. ... We'd play in the kitchen. Now they might have to travel a small path to get to the kitchen ..."

LaFevers trails off and tries to grin, but it comes off as a wince. She can talk about her hoarding, but it's a difficult and sometimes teary experience.


"People with hoarding issues tend to have a strong connection to items," Kornblum says. "They may have a large collection of nice, hardbound books, and they feel that this indicates that they're an intelligent person, and if they got rid of those books, that would take away that part of them."

Other people worry that if they get rid of their possessions, they will lose the memories attached to those possessions, she says.

According to Kornblum, identifying the underlying conditions -- depression, anxiety or attention deficient disorder -- and treating these with medication may be helpful, but the best treatment for hoarding is cognitive behavioral therapy. This type of intervention attempts to reprogram patterns of thinking and behavior.

"We would challenge the cognitive distortions," Kornblum says. "Maybe take a picture of something and then throw the item away and ask, 'Did you actually get rid of that memory? Does the picture help you keep that memory?'"


In 1994, LaFevers went through another romantic breakup. She comforted herself by collecting more stuff.

"It's like, if somebody can get through the clutter to really me, maybe they won't leave me, maybe they won't hurt me," LaFevers says.

Difficulties with close relationships -- "intimacy issues" -- are common among hoarders. "If it's anxiety-provoking to have people over, clutter is a good excuse to not have to invite them in," Kornblum says.

LaFevers wants to have her things nearby -- "It's mine, and nobody can take it away" -- but at the same time, she resents her things.

"I can't have Christmas here. I can't have a dinner party here. When my son comes, we visit at my dad's," she says.

In 2009 LaFevers saw Hoarders: Family Secrets, the Lifetime "reality" show that brings a cleaning crew into hoarders' homes. She realized that her house was "just as bad as some of the houses I was seeing on TV. I certainly didn't feel I was as much of an emotional wreck as some of the people on TV, although in my own way, I probably was."

She worries about tripping, about breathing mold, about fire hazards. For a while the house had mice, but eventually she got rid of a couch that sheltered the rodents. During a good week, LaFevers is able to fill a few small bags of trash, but she describes throwing things away as "actually physically painful."


"Hoarders can be very creative people. You take a basket of broken eyeglasses into a group of hoarders and say, 'What can you do with this?' and they come up with all sorts of things. ... They don't want to waste anything," Kornblum says.

LaFevers is a storyteller and historical re-enactor, hired to perform at schools, renaissance fairs and other special events. She teaches medieval songs and leads workshops in weaving, dyeing and paper-making. She believes most items are inherently useful.

LaFevers plucks an empty tuna can from atop a random stack. "This could be made into a camp stove," she says, inspecting it and replacing it.

Next she grabs an empty cookie tin that she has had for a year and runs through a litany of questions posed by housekeeping advice blogger who goes by the handle FlyLady.

"Do I use this? Not right now, but I saved it for a specific use, which is why it's sitting, um, not that bag ... where's the bag it's actually supposed to be with?" LaFevers rummages haplessly through nearby shopping bags.

"I had some sewing supplies in my car that were just loose, and I saved this tin to put those sewing supplies in. So when I find those sewing supplies again, I will put them in this tin," she says.

Does it make you smile, FlyLady wants to know.

"It makes me smile," LaFevers says. "It's a fairy tale."

The tin has a cartoon rendering of a Brothers Grimm tale, "Clever Hans." It won't be tossed out today.

Instead, LaFevers snags a torn crafting mat littering the path and deposits it in a small trash can.

"I've been eyeing this, meaning to throw it away for two to three weeks, and I haven't done it," she says. "It's easier for me to step over it than throw it away" -- even though she already bought a replacement.


LaFevers believes her hoarding is rooted in a sensation of childhood powerlessness, a combination of her mother's depression and what she sees as her younger sister having been given free rein to her toys and clothes.

"If I complained about it, I was told to let her have it because she was the baby ... so I had no sense of control over my own personal belongings," she says.

According to her sister, Wenoka Young, these items were hand-me-downs, items that LaFevers had outgrown. "Maybe that was somehow traumatic for her, to see me wearing her old clothes?" she says.

Young, 54, says hoarding is nearly as painful for family members as it is for the hoarder.

"I go into her house, and then I go home and sob, because it breaks my heart that she's living like this. ... It reaches a point where you can't do anything to help her, because no matter what you do, there's always criticism and fear. Fear of loss, fear that things are going to be taken away from her that are important."

LaFevers knows that hoarding has affected her relationship with her sons. Once her oldest son and his girlfriend spent a weekend cleaning her first story while LaFevers was out of town. They tossed garbage, put things in bins, scrubbed floors and washed dishes. When she returned, LaFevers went through the trash, pulling out items they had thrown away.

Then she fell into a depression that lasted several weeks.

In 2013 LaFevers applied to be on Hoarders. "The reason why they turned me down, I was not in a crisis situation. ... I did not have minor children at home, so I did not have DHS breathing down my neck, and I did not live in the city, so I did not have the city threatening to condemn my house," she says.

The casting director told LaFevers she was one of two hoarders who had applied for themselves that season. Usually family members apply on the hoarder's behalf.

The next year, LaFevers called Arkansas Crime Scene Clean-up, a Heber Springs company that cleans hoarders' homes. A representative visited and gave LaFevers an estimate -- they could clean her house and shed in four days, for $1,000 a day.

This is out of her price range, and anyway, she decided she wasn't ready to clean.

"I'm getting closer to being ready," she says.

Young thinks that LaFevers needs more accountability. Sometimes she has lived with housemates -- a subletter, a friend crashing on the couch, even, for a few years, Young and her husband.

"When there was someone else at the house, things weren't so out of control," Young says.

Hoarding runs in families, although scientists are uncertain whether the behavior is learned or genetic.

"In the same family, that has the same poverty and the same unspoken rule that you don't waste something, it makes sense that more than one person would have hoarding issues," Kornblum says.

Young says their childhood home didn't have paths, but most surfaces were cluttered: "My dad was raised in the Depression and has this attitude of not throwing anything away, ever." And there are stories of a paternal great-grandmother the sisters never met, a woman who lived in a house with "little paths."


Kornblum doesn't know of any physical support group for hoarders in Arkansas, but there are online groups. She cautions against seeking a "cure" for hoarding.

"It's kind of like an addiction. Someone who has gotten the hoarding under control, some years down the road, if they have a trauma or depression, will likely relapse into hoarding. But it usually means they can get back on track quicker the second or third or fourth time," she says. "It's a lifelong struggle, but there can definitely be major improvement in the quality of someone's life."

LaFevers isn't ready to clean her house, but "I've decided I want help for the shed," she says. "I think I'm ready to tackle the shed."

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  • PopMom
    September 28, 2015 at 9:28 a.m.

    Her poor children. The cure is to get her out of the house and take everything away when she is not there.

  • Mallettmtn
    September 28, 2015 at 9:15 p.m.

    She needs people to volunteer when she gets ready. I would volunteer but she will still need professional cleaners on the mold & health hazards.